Nothing is so bad that it can’t get worse, but nothing is so good that it can’t get better. The spectrum of possibilities shifts and changes and we are all somewhere in the middle of one measure or another.
Yet that little green-eyed monster known as jealousy is a debilitating one that destroys many a person’s life by narrowing his focus and then tainting what little he can see.
In Patriarchal Storytelling, these people are enabled, and then rewarded. The Patriarchal is all about a hero in competition with a villain with the hero triumphing at the end. On the surface, this story style inspires us to go on as we have hope of overcoming odds no matter how hopeless it seems. The villain is often the one who has it better than the hero, and the victim is the one who has it worse. No matter how bad the hero has it, he has someone more incompetent he can rescue to make himself seem grand as the villain is humbled as he loses his advantages as the hero ends up at the top, getting all the spoils for himself as the one who he rescued is eternally grateful to the hero.
But this method of storytelling also has other unforeseen implications as well that allows us to think our toxic thinking patterns are right and justified.
Many stories have a hero who is more of a victim than a hero. Abuse is heaped up on the protagonist that the hero is one we pity. For those morally sickened by that green-eyed monster, they have someone they can feel sorry for as they reassure themselves that no matter how bad they have it, someone has it worse, and now they have someone to feel superior to when their monster in their heads demands to be fed.
The Patriarchal feeds into this loop by its very structure. We get information to confirm our theories, not the ones that refute them.
However, the Matriarchal is the structure of nurturance and health, and it challenges our blinders by slapping them off our heads. Because the Matriarchal looks at more than one perspective, it, by its very essence, breaks away from the Confirmation Bias by looking for evidence that both confirms, but also refutes. We don’t get to close our eyes to either reality or truth because we see the full consequences of our actions. Excuses crumble and we don’t sweep the negative under the rug or hide it inside the positive: we weigh both the positive and negative on our Anubis Scale to find the truth.
With the Matriarchal, we can challenge the tyranny of ugly emotions, such as pity, jealousy, arrogance, hatred, and fear. We are not in competition with others with the Matriarchal: the protagonist shares a spotlight with other characters, and sometimes that hero becomes a supporting character and vice versa. Plot points intersect, meaning we can examine events from multiple perspectives and the monopoly of meaning is finally broken: no longer can an event be seen as proof that it is positive because it works in one character’s favour when it has negative consequences for others. We learn to balance both the positive and the negative and those always looking for those who have it worse than they do finally are forced to look at those who have it infinity better — and vice versa.
There is no selective focus in the Matriarchal: there are grains to be weighed and balance. Reality and truth inspire us to improve our own thinking patterns before we improve the world around us. The Patriarchal is about a protagonist disconnecting himself from others to succeed; the Matriarchal is all about connecting to others to see the big picture. Sometimes we connect to see the triumphs to improve upon them, but also the flaws to expose them and fix them.
The green-eyed monster is finally in the hot seat with the Matriarchal and the storyteller is free to explore past the confines of stifling emotions to tell bold stories we have yet to create.