In Patriarchal Storytelling, the concepts of truth, reality, and perception are interchangeable. The narrative for the most part (save if the narrator is of the unreliable variety), is assumed to be absolutely right and real. The narrative is the gospel truth. The protagonist tells you he is the hero; ergo, he is the hero, no questions asked. If he tells you he deceived his love interest because he is an insecure romantic with a good heart, that is truth and reality. He had no other choice.
The Matriarchal does not follow this formula. In fact, the Matriarchal knows the differences and story structure is based on the differences in the level of truth we can grasp. Truth is universal. Reality is our surroundings. Perception has filters and limitations, but it is our way of experiencing reality as we find our way to the truth. Reality often is relative: we have limitations in one instance, but not another. We can evolve, progress, or regress. A rich person and a poor person have different realities, but share the same truth.
Truth goes beyond the tangible, but reality is the tangible. They may overlap, but they are not the same thing. A realist has a firm grasp of reality, but may lack the courage or understanding to push beyond it.
We can have a limited understanding of truth, but not reality, or vice versa. Some people can see both, while others can not see either.
A truth is simple, but is messy and complex. For example, basing life choices on lies makes plans ineffective as you will always miss your mark. I have known people who always spin bad news with a positive bent, and their plans come to nothing because they cannot grasp their reality, and they cannot grasp a truth: in this case, that solutions based on lies cannot adequately fit the parameters set by reality.
There are people who always hope a knight in shining armour will come and rescue them as they do all of their work for them. They cannot grasp reality or truth that when there is no investment, there is no return.
Plant no seeds, and you will reap no harvest.
If you hope someone else will plant it for you, they will demand something in exchange for their bounty, and once you are at the mercy of the gardener, they are the ones in control of your fate and future. They can jack up the price or cut you off, taking the best of the bounty for themselves.
Perception gives us clues. We can see reality and we can sense the truth, yet our perceptions are limited to our intelligence, experience, physical health, and even innate limitations as Mother Nature has made our senses limited.
Perception filters our understanding of reality, but we can often be perfectly aware of the truth.
Why? Because sensing truth takes equal measure of intellectual health — but also emotional health. People who are deluded in various ways can never see truths that prove their delusions to be inaccurate theories. It is the reason gullible people always fall for greed and pity scams: they never learn because to learn would prove their delusion to be a lie.
If you believe that sitting around being passive will get you out of trouble because you are equal parts lazy and arrogant, you will never see a slow spiral to oblivion. Everything will work out in the end because someone will save you as they burden themselves with your inert state of being.
You will always make excuses as to why your life theory failed in that laboratory called life. Reality and truth are rejected for fantasy and wishful thinking.
Fantasy is nothing more than an interpretation of reality. You may have the fantasy of becoming a rock star, but if you are passive and think you will be magically discovered, you have no concept of reality or truth. You must actively arrive and then deliver just to make the dream of success a reality.
Fantasy is a script based on wishful think. A dream is a complicated goal. A fantasy is specific. A dream is more broad. A dream turns into reality when truth and reality are faced directly. A fantasy involves imagining the reaction of others from friends to foes, a dream does not drag anyone else into the goal.
You want to be rich to stick it to your sister? You are in the realm of fantasy. You want to make a new genre of music that speaks to those feeling despair? You are in the realm of dream.
Dreams take reality and truth into the equations. Fantasy rejects both from their calculations. Dreams can change reality with a single truth. Fantasy tries to impose its will on the truth.
In both cases, both are not just based on perceptions, but an interpretation of what those perceptions mean.
If our interpretations are tainted with faulty thinking and feeling, then we have less truth and reality to work with than if we are open to other ways of seeing the information we receive.
There are people, for instance who always see themselves on the top of every pecking order. There are people who must always envy, pity, manipulate, or save others. They must always dominate or always please.
They cannot deviate from their personal script. They have one rule that explains everything, and never move one step away from their standard interpretation. They may label themselves optimist or pessimist, but what they are is unwilling to objectively assess each situation and then form a plan based on reality and truth.
To explain their static interpretation of their life theories, they construct the narrative that fits their beliefs. If they want to see their every action as heroic, they will spin a narrative that attempts to make others see their interpretations as unalienable truths. The narrative becomes their bible and any challenge is seen as sacrilege.
The system of Patriarchal storytelling thrives on blurring the lines of the above concepts. Fantasies are dreams and interpretation of the narrative is truth and reality. Even an unreliable narrator gambit works because the go-into assumption is that the narrative is gospel.
The Matriarchal looks at all of these concepts separate, in both the content of the stories as well as the structure they are presented. Their interactions are fodder for stories. Far from blurring the lines, the Matriarchal examines each one separately and in conjunction with one another and looks to see what happens when characters can grasp some of these concepts, but not others.
It is the way to foster compassion and understanding. We learn to let go of selfish views as we embrace and expanded horizon. We are not threatened by differing points of view, but are strengthened by them. We don’t cling to unworkable theories, but have the courage to find the truths that will work for us instead of holding on to the fantasies that work against us.