The presumption that a narrator is beyond questioning is the hallmark of patriarchal stories. It is all about the One.
We do not question the narrator’s assumptions. The hero is the Good.
Those who the hero disagrees with are the Bad.
Whoever controls the story decides on what is right and wrong.
And it is not enough to reward there hero; the villains must be humiliated and punished for having ideologies that are different from the heroes.
It is binary. You cannot negotiate or come to some mutually beneficial solution.
This is the thinking of the Patriarchal.
There is no attempt at understanding people whose life requirements differ from yours.
The hero always wins. All the spoils go to the hero and his team.
This is the justification for hoarding even dictatorship.
As the Queen song goes…
I want it all, and I want it now.
In other words, Patriarchal stories are covert calls to war.
It is always combat. It is always a fight, a battle, a war, and the winner takes all.
Not just the spoils, but the hero’s halo.
It is not as if it never is that binary: if a serial killer is trying to make you the next victim, then, of course, he is wrong and he is evil.
But the employee asking for a raise so he can pay his bills isn’t being a greedy pig.
The woman filing a sexual harassment complaint isn’t a troublemaker. She just wants to do her job and be left alone.
The teacher who gave you a failing grade for handing in a lousy exam isn’t being a jerk.
The woman who turned you down for a date isn’t your enemy. She just doesn’t want to go out with you.
Other times, the situation is more complex.
If your negligence caused harm to someone else, and you refuse to accept the blame for what you have done, do not consider yourself a hero or a victim. You are a coward and a villain.
If you bullied a classmate because you knew they would endure your taunts, and you brought them stress, you had no excuse for it. It’s insensitive and irresponsible, and you have much to answer for. You may have matured and stopped playing those games, but you still made damage. You still have a villainous past that you must own.
But the Patriarchal is incapable of addressing these nuances.
The Matriarchal does not play games of war. It makes a map to peace — and not the kind of peace that requires people to settle, submit, or retreat.
It is the peace that comes from truth, respect, and understanding the reality of a situation.
It is not about false competitions and bogus pecking orders. The hero has worth in the content of his or her character.
And it may so happen the hero is not the protagonist.
Or not just the protagonist.
The Matriarchal can deal with conflict between two noble people as it shows why both are not villains — because they can get together and come up with a mutually beneficial solution without resorting to feints, temper tantrums, or psychological manipulations.
The Matriarchal takes apart war manuals. It shows their flaws and limitations.
Because the Matriarchal is about the Infinite. There is room for more than just the One. It can took at various perspectives and understands that life is a serious of puzzles to solve, and solutions of combat rarely work — people seek revenge, validation, and vindication, and will always plot to get them.
If they are hung up on Patriarchal hypothetical constructs.
If our success means that everyone else has to sacrifice and endure hardship, then you are not a success.
You are a tyrant.
If your success elevates your environment and others are free to benefit from their own endeavours as well, then you are a success.
You are a hero.
The Patriarchal confuses submission with success. There is always a destructive element.
The villain is the obstacle: so how do I get rid of the obstacle while still maintaining my halo that serves as my cover?
That’s not the Matriarchal.
Because there is room for the Infinite, while the Patriarchal has room for only the One.